Why Bitching About Sexism Is A Losing Strategy
from Sellout:
1. Women are taught to be good girls; wait to be asked; see themselves in relationship to others; not want to stand out; not break rules. Art is about being bad and doing something without being asked. It's about standing out--it's a cult of individuality right now, although I want that to change. Avant garde = breaking rules.
2. Women do not help other women as much as they should. Women can be really sexist with one another. In fact, I would go so far as to say that most of the sexism that has been directed at me in my life has come from other women. (kind of split on this point)
3. Women grow up thinking that if someone really appreciates you, they anticipate your needs and desires. And they are taught not to do anything until they know they're not fucking up. Men tend to be taught that they need to ask for what they want, are taught that fucking up is OK, and that you have to put your hands on whatever it is and start.
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